Step 2: Finding Sanity and Joy

(From August, 2018 Essay) I grew up in India with a devout Hindu mother, an atheist physician father, Muslim friends, and attended Catholic boarding school.  Although I was exposed to multiple faith traditions growing up, I never considered myself religious and rarely thought deeply about God.  I would occasionally selfishly pray before exams. I had the impression that God was everywhere, constantly watching me. If I did something wrong or...

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I Don’t Need To Know – Art B.

[Originally published in Essay 2016 #3] I suffer from a sort of hypervigilance. Something in me wants to identify and define every object, every person, every angle and surface in my physical environment. My ears are open; my eyes are taking in the very texture of things around me. At some point, a long time ago, this hypervigilance became a tool of my lust. In “insobriety,” I was always looking and listening for triggers: people and images...

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Tradition Five: Our Primary Purpose

(from August, 2018 Essay) Tradition Five: Each group has but one primary purpose— to carry its message to the sexaholic who still suffers. In the Traditions, we have one ultimate authority, one membership requirement, and now one primary purpose. All of these support the unity of SA. Tradition Five gives us our singleness of purpose–– recovery from our obsession with lust through working the SA program with others. While we come from many...

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Fond Remembrance of Roy K.

I would like to share my memories of Roy K., who was perhaps second only to my father in influencing my life for the better. My first contact with Roy was through a “Dear Abby” letter that appeared in the New Orleans Times Picayune in June 19811. In the letter, the writer described his battles with pornography, prostitutes, street behavior, affairs, masturbation, and loss of self worth. His fatal malady was lust; he was a “sexaholic.” He signed...

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Harvey A. “Shame & the Fourth Dimension”

[From Essay May 2018] Shame And The Fourth Dimension Saturday Night SA Speaker Harvey A. from Nashville SA/S-Anon International Conventions San Antonio, TX 1/12 – 14/18 Introduction: Hello. I feel a little awkward. I’m Mark. I’m a sexaholic from San Antonio. My recovery date is December 14th of 2007. This disease is life or death for me. I’m so grateful to be here and to get the honor of introducing our keynote speaker, the Saturday night...

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Free As a Bird — Dick O.’s Story

[From Essay May 2018] I write this to express my gratitude to my Higher Power and SA for the gift of sexual sobriety. It’s been my goal all my life but I could not attain it on my own, no matter how hard I tried. God knows how hard I tried! I am now free from acting out, though I know this is contingent on maintaining my spiritual condition. I am in my sixth year of sexual sobriety thanks to my Higher Power and SA. I never thought this would...

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