The Melbourne Experience: Strong Meetings Need Committed Members

There is no doubt that if every SA meeting was conducted along the lines as prescribed in our White Book (185-187), our fellowship would have thousands of strong meetings globally and many, many thousands of members with strong recovery. However, the starting point is to ask, what is the purpose of meetings in 12 Step fellowships? I think there are three answers to this question: (1) Not only to get our secrets into the open – but also...

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The Chicago Experience of Building a Culture of Sobriety

Hi Mike, thanks for your time today in sharing your experience, strength and hope.  Could we begin by asking your sobriety date and home group? Yes, June 3, 1984 and the Holy Innocent group in Chicago.  For a long time previously it was at St Teresa.  We have been on Zoom for about a year now; when we were face to face, attendance was around 55-60 and we meet for 90 minutes. Can you briefly describe what life was like before SA ? In my teens I...

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He Came to Believe and Found a Life of Unlimited Service and Fulfilling Relationships

My name is Bill, and I am a recovered sexaholic. My sobriety date is September 4, 1993, and for that I am never sufficiently grateful. When I arrived in SA, I was hopeless and suicidally depressed from over 35 years of untreated addiction. I had my first drink of beer when I was 4 years old and was drinking for effect by the time I was 7. I recall that during this period I was fantasizing about a different life. I was born into a family riddled...

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My Experience As a Young Adult In Recovery

When I stepped into my first SA meeting I was about twenty-five years old. When I think back on what I had experienced up to then and how I was feeling at the time, I am astonished at myself today; at how the program has changed me; the extent to which it has helped me. It’s a miracle, a miracle which is still unfolding. I was less than six years old when I was visited – uninvited! – by lust.  He was a rapist, nine years older than...

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I Joined SA As a 19 Year Old Girl

My first memories are of fear, resentment and separation. Lust first came on the scene  when I was four,  my mother moved with us to a foreign country  without my father.  During my first few months in this new place I was sexually abused by kids several years older than myself.  I was terrified anybody would find out,  I was sure it was my fault and I feel guilty for enjoying the physical aspect and all attention.  We moved again  and the...

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The Root Was Lust

My name is Matteo and I’m a recovering sexaholic. Throughout my adolescence I was progessively consumed by same-sex behaviours and fantasies. I thought that the problem was being attracted to men. Acting out for 17 years shaped my whole thinking. “I was restless, irritable and discontented”. SA told me that actually the root was lust, and this was music to my ears. I began to detach from the lust one day at a time and stopped...

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Essay interviewed old-timer Art B.

Essay: Thank you for your time, Art. Could we start by asking how old you were when you joined SA and the length of your sobriety? Art: I was 44. I’m 80 now, with 35 years of sobriety. When asked how does one stay sober for 35 years, I say: “One day at a time, keep surrendering lust, and one day at a time, don’t die!” I’ve been blessed with the gift of sobriety and with longevity. Essay: How long were you struggling with the addiction and what...

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The Wonderful Tool Of Bookending – Matan C., Israel

[From Essay, December 2020] My name is Matan C and I am a recovering sexaholic from Jerusalem, Israel; I am sober joyous and free from September 30th 2016 by the grace of a loving Higher Power, the 12 Steps and Traditions, my Sponsor and Sponees, my Family, this Fellowship and a wide variety of recovery tools, one of which I would like to share with you now. When I started my way in SA, my sponsor and other long time members (both living and...

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My Most Important Possession – Bob F., USA

[From Essay, December 2020] Let’s start with some statistics. The word happy appears in the book Sexaholics Anonymous (SA) seven times, and in the book Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) 16 times. The word joyous is in the SA book eight times, and in the AA book 12 times. Freedom is used only four times in the AA book and 37 times in the SA book. That leads me to believe that freedom is more important to sexaholics than to alcoholics. That does not mean...

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Carrying The Message: What An Adventure – Jim D., USA

[From Essay, December 2020] “Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to sexaholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.” To seek spiritual progress, I must continue to work the Steps with my sponsor. I must continue reading questions, reflecting and writing answers no matter how many times I’ve done this before. This time around, I found a few Twelfth-step questions...

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