How Did I Overcome/Survive Being the Only Woman in My SA Home Group (Tencha S., Texas, USA)

The long and short of it is, I just kept coming back.  I started in SA as a young, widowed, single mom in June 2005. At that time there were 3 other women in my homegroup. Within a year, they were gone. My sponsor was one of them. She decided to go back out and try some more controlled lusting, my grand-sponsor moved, and the other woman quit coming because of health reasons. Thankfully, by this time, I had worked the steps and knew beyond a...

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Practicing healthy interactions in SA (Kathy R., Oregon, USA)

Practicing healthy interactions in SA has been a passion of mine. Possibly since the beginning of my recovery. I have known near my entire life that I am not good at relationships. My longing to find how to be relationally “normal” has been a lifelong seeking. Coming to SA, although not immediately, I started finding answers. I saw others with more recovery acting normal, even men with women. I knew if I kept coming back, I too would grow...

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Today She Chooses Life and Love (Olga S., Alchevsk, Ukraine)

I am a recovering sex addict from Ukraine, sober since the fall of 2015. My problem is that I am completely unable to cope with the lust that manifests itself in objectification, fantasies, and an unhealthy obsession with one person or a group of people. I have lost control of my thoughts, feelings, and actions. I am now 57 years old, and from a very young age I tried to achieve success in everything I did. The desire to achieve success still...

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These Years Have Been So Much Fun (Sylvia J., Oklahoma, USA)

People would tell me things I wouldn’t hear because I was always off in my head somewhere. My older sister was a very smart person and got good grades, while I didn’t do well with people and in school. My younger sister was very pretty and everybody thought she was adorable. So I felt like I was misunderstood all the time. I discovered when I got older that my problem was that I had ADD, because I would disassociate and not know what...

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How and Where I Found My Sponsors (Marie-Paule C., Luxembourg)

I am a sexaholic from Luxembourg, sober since May 31, 2004. I went to my first SA meeting at a convention in Germany In 1995 and found my first sponsor there. I was in a lot of pain and went up, after one of the meetings, to one of the women and asked her to be my sponsor. She agreed. In the process of finding a sponsor, pain has been an important factor. It pushed me to reach out and to ask for help. Because of my pain, I became willing to do...

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