Lust Is the Problem — Harvey A.

[From Essay, March 2010] Now that Roy has passed, it is incumbent on all of us to carry on his primary emphasis on recovery from Lust. Unlike other “S” fellow- ships, where the emphasis is on the powerlessness over acting out, we in SA emphasize our powerlessness over lust. Through Roy’s guidance, our Step One says that “we were powerless over lust and our lives had become unmanageable.” It does not say that we were powerless over sexual acting...

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The Problem and the Solution

The Problem M any of us felt inadequate, unworthy, alone, and afraid. Our insides never matched what we saw on the outsides of others. Early on, we came to feel disconnected—from parents, from peers, from ourselves. We tuned out with fantasy and masturbation. We plugged in by drinking in the pictures, the images, and pursuing the objects of our fantasies. We lusted and wanted to be lusted after. We became true addicts: sex with self,...

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Tough Love Changing Lives in Hollywood North

I came into SA in 1987 in Los Angeles.  I attended meetings, went to international conferences, had three sponsors in succession, made as many as four phone calls every day and followed directions from those three sponsors.  I was never sober for the first six years.  People ask what changed.  In 1993 there was a confluence of several factors.  I was broken, I had no job and drove a car that was so battered that people couldn’t agree on what...

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The Melbourne Experience: Strong Meetings Need Committed Members

There is no doubt that if every SA meeting was conducted along the lines as prescribed in our White Book (185-187), our fellowship would have thousands of strong meetings globally and many, many thousands of members with strong recovery. However, the starting point is to ask, what is the purpose of meetings in 12 Step fellowships? I think there are three answers to this question: (1) Not only to get our secrets into the open – but also...

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The Chicago Experience of Building a Culture of Sobriety

Hi Mike, thanks for your time today in sharing your experience, strength and hope.  Could we begin by asking your sobriety date and home group? Yes, June 3, 1984 and the Holy Innocent group in Chicago.  For a long time previously it was at St Teresa.  We have been on Zoom for about a year now; when we were face to face, attendance was around 55-60 and we meet for 90 minutes. Can you briefly describe what life was like before SA ? In my teens I...

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He Came to Believe and Found a Life of Unlimited Service and Fulfilling Relationships

My name is Bill, and I am a recovered sexaholic. My sobriety date is September 4, 1993, and for that I am never sufficiently grateful. When I arrived in SA, I was hopeless and suicidally depressed from over 35 years of untreated addiction. I had my first drink of beer when I was 4 years old and was drinking for effect by the time I was 7. I recall that during this period I was fantasizing about a different life. I was born into a family riddled...

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Spiritual Spring Clean (Part 2)

March 2021 Spiritual Spring Clean Get ready for your best year ever in recovery by completing Steps 1-8 and progressing Steps 9-12 in just 10 hours. Part One: Complete Steps 1-5 on Saturday 13th March 2021 from 12 noon until 5 pm New York time (17.00-22.00 pm London time). Part Two: Complete Steps 6-8 and begin working Steps 9-12 on Saturday 20th March 2021 from 12 noon until 5 pm New York time (17.00-22.00 pm London time). What is the aim? To...

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Spiritual Spring Clean (Part 1)

March 2021 Spiritual Spring Clean Get ready for your best year ever in recovery by completing Steps 1-8 and progressing Steps 9-12 in just 10 hours. Part One: Complete Steps 1-5 on Saturday 13th March 2021 from 12 noon until 5 pm New York time (17.00-22.00 pm London time). Part Two: Complete Steps 6-8 and begin working Steps 9-12 on Saturday 20th March 2021 from 12 noon until 5 pm New York time (17.00-22.00 pm London time). What is the aim? To...

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My Experience As a Young Adult In Recovery

When I stepped into my first SA meeting I was about twenty-five years old. When I think back on what I had experienced up to then and how I was feeling at the time, I am astonished at myself today; at how the program has changed me; the extent to which it has helped me. It’s a miracle, a miracle which is still unfolding. I was less than six years old when I was visited – uninvited! – by lust.  He was a rapist, nine years older than...

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I Joined SA As a 19 Year Old Girl

My first memories are of fear, resentment and separation. Lust first came on the scene  when I was four,  my mother moved with us to a foreign country  without my father.  During my first few months in this new place I was sexually abused by kids several years older than myself.  I was terrified anybody would find out,  I was sure it was my fault and I feel guilty for enjoying the physical aspect and all attention.  We moved again  and the...

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